Planning a wedding is a lot of work. It can be stressful, and drama can creep in when you least expect it. Your mom pitches a fit. Your best friend suddenly doesn’t want to be your maid of honor. Your fiancé doesn’t seem to care whether it even happens. What can you do? Take a deep breath. Now let it out. Good. Now do it again. And again.
Everyone gets stressed about wedding preparation, but stress and drama don’t have to take over. Here are a couple of great tips for getting through and keeping things in perspective.
First of all, let’s talk about the quickest way to get mired in a bunch of family drama: letting them pay for it. When you let your parents (or his) pay for the whole shebang, you may feel like you’re getting the best wedding gift ever. However, you’re probably actually getting a whole lot of extra cooks in the kitchen.
Money is power. When you let them pay for your wedding, you’re telling them (no matter what they say to the contrary) that they have control over your big day. Try to pay for as much as possible. Don’t insult your family by not letting them pay for anything, either. When they offer, tell them that they can cover the venue or the floral arrangements. Pick something for them. That way you still have control.
The next big issue that a lot of brides deal with is a “lazy” groom. Your husband-to-be wants to marry you. He wants to be a part of your life for as long as you both shall live. He just probably has no clue how to get involved in all this wedding planning. Give him specific tasks and deadlines. He’ll appreciate the structure, and you’ll have a load off in the planning process.
Above all else, stay positive. This is your big day. You’re going to look back on it with wonder and fondness. You won’t remember the stress and drama when you look back; so don’t worry about it now.